Steps to Safety: A Guide to Surviving Domestic Abuse

In this self-help book for survivors of Domestic Abuse, Bella Luna has drawn on her own experience of an abusive relationship to create a guide to support others who have experienced similar trauma. Unlike other books in this category, Steps to Safety is a no-nonsense guidebook written with everyday language for the everyday human. It provides practical, and realistic tips, based on a real woman’s experience of surviving domestic abuse.

"Life is hard when you live it the easy way, but easy when you live it the hard way."

Darren hardy

Your Guide to SURVIVING Domestic Abuse

Gain some practical tips, written in everyday language, to take you from trapped and scared, to empowered and free. 

"You are BRAVER than you believe, STRONGER than you seem, and SMARTER than you think."

A. A. Milne

My Story of Abuse: Why I Wrote This Book

I was only 18 years old when I met my abuser. I had recently been discharged from an adolescent mental health unit and was in one of the most vulnerable emotional states a person could be in. I just wanted to be loved, to be accepted, to be wanted.

It wasn’t until about 6 months in that I began to realise that things weren’t right. But I was too scared, and too ashamed, to speak to anyone about it. I already had the label ‘crazy’ slapped across me by so many, I didn’t think anyone would believe me. So, I turned to books.

I tried to find books that could help me understand what was happening to me. So much of it was so subtle, so unassuming, that articulating it would have made me sound irrational.

Back then, e-books hadn’t really taken off as much as they have now, and even so, I didn’t own a Kindle or smartphone so only bought paperbacks. Naturally, that wasn’t an option. And even if it was, all the books I found were so psychologically heavy, my brain couldn’t cope with all the long-winded explanations and in-depth scientific terminology.

I just wanted someone to help me understand what was happening to me, to take me seriously, to tell me I wasn’t crazy. To support me in finding the safest route out of my abusive situation, and to help me navigate the tumultuous years to come.

Steps to Safety was birthed from my desire to provide survivors with simple, practical, easy-to-understand tips to take them from their abusive situation and towards a life of freedom and joy. I want you to know that you are not the problem, you are not crazy, you are not alone.

Your Bill of Rights

Download your Bill of Rights below. Print it off and keep it somewhere nearby – your fridge, your mirror, or in your purse. Look at it every day to remind you of what you are entitled to and how you deserve to be treated.

"Life isn't about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning to dance in the rain."

Vivian Greene

Take your first step to safety

And begin living the life of joy and freedom you were always destined for.

Support Services UK

If you, or someone you know, is in immediate danger, call 999.

Website: www.womensaid.org.uk

Telephone: 0808 2000 247

Website: www.refuge.org.uk

Telephone: 0808 2000 247

Website: www.welshwomensaid.org.uk

Telephone: 0808 80 10 800

Website: www.gov.uk/forced-marriage

Telephone: 020 7008 0151

Website: www.mensadviceline.org.uk

Telephone: 0808 801 0327 (Mon to Fri: 9am to 5pm)

Website: www.mankind.org.uk

Telephone: 01823 334 244 – Mon-Fri, 10am-4pm and 7pm-9pm (ex. Friday evenings)

Support Services US

If you, or someone you know, is in immediate danger, call 911.

Website: www.ncadv.org/get-help

Telephone: 1-800-799-7233 (SAFE), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Website: www.thehotline.org

Telephone: 1-800-799-7233, 1-800-787-3224 (TTY)

Website: www.loveisrespect.org

Telephone: Call: 1-866-331-9474, TTY: 1.866.331.8453, Text: loveis to 22522

Website: www.salvationarmyusa.org        

Telephone: No national hotline, local numbers on website